Add new distributed destroy action configuration

Problem: currently eviction-action currently must be either 'local-destroy' or 'overflow-to-disk'

ex: <expiration-attributes timeout="60" action="local-destroy" />

Solution: This story is to add the additional option "distributed-destroy" as an action setting for expiration-attributes. 

This will enable a local destroy action to be distributed across the cluster (currently this does not exist)

Acceptance: can set this on region configuration via cache.xml, API or gfsh

gfsh help and docs have been updated